You know in looking at alot of my blog friends posts, they just seem to hvae the nicest family and have everything together and have a really nice clean and decorative home! Now, I am guessing this isn't true... that their life is not always peachy and that they are not always happy and don't always have it together,and that their home may be in need of some major repairs ..
The fact is, being a good adoptive family for a child does not require all the things that the world deems imperative. And I think it is to the devils delight if we focus on these things and they make us not reach out to a child in need, for we feel unworthy!
Some examples from my own life:
1. All the bedrooms in my house need painted, or wall paper torn down, or closets, or new carpet... none of them have matching curtains or bedspreads, none of them have a light fixture, none of them have "pottery barn kids" decor. But my kids like their rooms anyway.
2. I have 7 kids. As a whole they DO NOT get along great. They each have someone they get along with better than others. But if you want brutal honesty, they fight, ALOT. They love each other too, but sometimes it is easy to forget that for all the arguing and competitiveness that goes on! My oldest son, well he doesnt' seem to like anyone right now. That is the honest truth. I am praying for him.
3. We do not have savings. We have some assets. We have some credit card debt. Much more than we wish we did, but not so much I can't sleep at night.
4. We yell at our kids, sometimes for not much reason. Sometimes, we wish they would just be quiet and go away. :) But we love them to pieces, and we feel we are doing the best we can and hope they see it that way too once they are grown.
5. There is more dirt than grass in our yard. We hide all the crud in our yard in our garage when company comes.
6. I don't do craft projects with the kids. I should, but I don't.
7. I have to nag them to do chores. They do them, but they gripe the whole time.
There is nothing wrong with having or doing any of these things. I just want some of those questioning adoption to realize that a perfect life, house, family etc. is not a requirement for being able to provide a child with a loving, supportive, christian home! We are all a work in progress. Dont' let what you don't have or can't provide be the deciding factor all on its own! :)